Helping You Rebuild Your Life After Religion
So, you left your faith. Now what?
Join the 1000s of women on the same path who have questioned everything, untangled their beliefs, and are living a life that finally feels like theirs.
You don't have to do this alone.
How We Can Help →NOT SURE WHERE TO START?
Real support. No fluff.
Happy Mail is our weekly email full of nervous system tools, thought-provoking prompts, and reminders that you’re not crazy, broken, or alone. We don’t preach at you, not do we try to fix you. We just help you see you were never broken to begin with and walk you back home to yourself.
We'd Love to Partner With You!
There’s no one-size-fits-all path to healing religious harm. That’s why we offer three ways to work with us: whether you want to go slow and solo, build deep community, or dive all the way in.
Happy Whole U
This isn’t just an online coaching program; it’s a complete reclamation of who you are. Expect in-depth videos that finally speak your language, real-time community, practices that don’t bypass your pain, but walk you through it. All within a safe and supportive sisterhood.
Summer Retreat
For the woman who’s ready for more than a computer screen. This long weekend Happy Whole U immersion is where the real magic happens: exploring the course material in real life through healing fireside chats, belly laughs, and soul-deep connections. SOLD OUT.
1:1 Coaching
You deserve sacred space to unravel and rebuild... with someone who’s lived it. Cara’s private coaching for anyone figuring out life after religion is a place where all parts of you are are welcome, your emotions are held, and your truth gets to be explored.
HI, WE'RE CARA + RACHAEL!
We’re Not Your Next Guru or Leader
(and we don’t want to be)
If religion taught you that someone else had all the answers, you’re probably done putting your trust in leaders, teachers, and “experts.” We get it. So are we.
This isn’t just a job for us it’s deeply personal. We know what it’s like because we’ve lived it. Both of us once served as children’s pastors in the Evangelical church, holding tightly to a faith that eventually came crashing down nearly 20 years ago. Since then, we’ve spent the past two decades deconstructing what no longer fits, rebuilding from the inside out, and slowly carving out lives rooted in meaning, authenticity, and deep self-trust.
At Happy Whole U™, we’re not here to be your guru. We’re not going to tell you what to believe, how to live, or who to become. We're here to hold space, ask better questions, and help you create your own roadmap back to yourself.
Because you are the wise one.Â
What Clients Are Saying →“Rachael and Cara are the best duo and allow for a totally inclusive, non-judgmental, learning environment.”
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-Rosalyn, Fall 2020
How We're Different
Coming home to yourself requires new language.
You Are Whole
We believe in honoring all parts of yourself: The Physical, Emotional, Mental, Relational, and Spiritual. We call this the WHOLE-istic self and believe that tending to all five components is crucial to create meaning and wholeness within.
Answers Are Within
We believe there is no external fix like a secret juice, diet, book, or guru that has the answers. The Magic is simply inside you. By connecting to your WHOLE self, you can find, listen to, and trust the messages each part offers you.
Gentleness Is KeyÂ
We believe true change happens through gentleness, not through force or shame. Growth begins when you stop rejecting your humanity and start embracing every part of yourself, especially the ones religion told you to hide.
Caring vs. Curing Of
Healing, to us, is not about perfection or the absence of pain. It’s the slow, steady practice of turning toward what hurts with compassion. Life will always include shadow. The work is learning how to care for what’s here, not banish it.
👩🏼‍🎓 M.A. Certified Coaches
We both hold a Master's degree in Soul Care from an accredited private University (since 2007), and are certified Spiritual Directors.
👋🏽 19 Years Out of Evangelicalism
Nearly two decades have passed since we've left the Church, giving us ample time and space to address our religious programming and rebuild our lives.
🫱🏼‍🫲🏽 We are clinically trained for this
It's an honor for us to walk with you on this journey.
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We're committed to bringing you as much free content as we possibly can! You will find a collection of articles from tips, education, creative projects and rituals. It's all here!
The Big Book List
Do you have a good book recommendation for that? The answer is always YES (and our list is long and ever growing). Access our virtural library of our favorite book recs.
Get Our Playlist
We thoughtfully picked over 30 of the best songs that speak to the messy, profound, and resilient experience of leaving high demand religion. Go grab your headphones!
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Rediscovering Your Values After Religion
You weren’t meant to just survive... you were meant to live free.
If you’re ready to stop second-guessing yourself and start building a life rooted in your truth (not the one handed to you), this free mini workbook will help you get clear on what actually matters to you now.
Download it today and take your first step toward a life that feels like yours.
