Helping You Rebuild Your Life After Religion
Join the 1,000s of women who are reclaiming their life after leaving a high-demand religion or are having a crisis of faith.
How We Can HelpNOT SURE WHERE TO START?
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We'd Love to Partner With You!
Here is how we can work with you as you heal from religious harm:
Happy Whole U
This is our signature online group coaching program full of in-depth teaching videos, monthly online circles, and personalized coaching from us, as well as a weekly community with like-minded women (optional upgrade).
Summer Retreat
You'll get all the benefits of Happy Whole U (the course, community, and monthly circles from April-Dec), plus a long weekend immersion retreat, focusing on healing and building new connections with each other.
1:1 Coaching
Cara offers compassionate guidance and support through 1:1 Spiritual Direction coaching. This is for anyone currently trying to figure out life after deconstructing their faith, has left a high-demand religion, or in the midst of a faith transition.
Hi, We're
Cara + Rachael. Â
We understand you because we were YOU.Â
We were both former pastors who bravely walked away from old beliefs, jobs, and community to find a beautiful, new life waiting for us on the other side. Knowing first-hand how difficult this journey is, we have devoted ourselves to teaching women like you the tools necessary to move through this hard time so you can relate to yourself and others in a completely new way.
With our Masters degrees in Soul Care and as certified coaches with 17+ yrs experience each, we have coached 100's of women just like you. We are trained with the necessary tools to guide you home.Â
What Clients Are Saying“Rachael and Cara are the best duo and allow for a totally inclusive, non-judgmental, learning environment.”
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-Rosalyn Brickman, HWU Fall 2020
How We're Different
Coming home to yourself requires new language.
You Are Already WHOLE
We believe in honoring all parts of yourself: The Physical, Emotional, Mental, Relational, and Spiritual. We call this the WHOLE-istic self and believe that tending to all five components is crucial to create meaning and wholeness within.
The Answers Are Within You
We believe there is no external fix like a secret juice, diet, book, or guru that has the answers. The Magic is simply inside you. By connecting to your WHOLE-istic self, you can find, listen to, and trust the messages each part offers you.
Curiosity and Gentleness Are KeyÂ
We believe in taking a softer approach to developing a relationship with yourself; one that does not involve harsh pep talks or denying your feelings. Our approach does not deny any parts of who you are; instead it radically embraces them.
We Promote Caring For vs. Curing Of
We believe that healing does not mean “curing” or making perfect. Life will not be trouble-free or without its moments of darkness. Healing is the process of learning how to care for who you are now so you can navigate through all of life's ups and downs.Â
👩🏼‍🎓M.A. Certified Coaches
We both hold a Master's degree in Soul Care from an accredited private University (since 2007), and are certified Spiritual Directors.
👋🏽19 Years Out of Evangelicalism
Nearly two decades have passed since we've left the Church, giving us ample time and space to address our religious programming and rebuild our lives.
🫱🏼‍🫲🏽 We are clinically trained for this
It's an honor for us to walk with you on this journey.
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